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Mon April 21, 2014
For The Children's Sake, Put Down That Smartphone
Originally published on Thu May 1, 2014 12:29 pm
It's not just kids who are overdoing screen time. Parents are often just as guilty of spending too much time checking smartphones and e-mail — and the consequences for their children can be troubling.
Dr. Jenny Radesky is a pediatrician specializing in child development. When she worked at a clinic in a high-tech savvy Seattle neighborhood, Radesky started noticing how often parents ignored their kids in favor of a mobile device. She remembers a mother placing her phone in the stroller between herself and the baby. "The baby was making faces and smiling at the mom," Radesky says, "and the mom wasn't picking up any of it; she was just watching a YouTube video."
Radesky was so concerned she decided to study the behavior. After relocating to Boston Medical Center, she and two other researchers spent one summer observing 55 different groups of parents and young children eating at fast food restaurants. Many of the caregivers pulled out a mobile device right away, she says. "They looked at it, scrolled on it and typed for most of the meal, only putting it down intermittently."
This was not a scientific study, Radesky is quick to point out. It was more like anthropological observation, complete with detailed field notes. Forty of the 55 parents used a mobile device during the meal, and many, she says, were more absorbed in the device than in the kids.
Radesky says that's a big mistake, because face-to-face interactions are the primary way children learn. "They learn language, they learn about their own emotions, they learn how to regulate them," she says. "They learn by watching us how to have a conversation, how to read other people's facial expressions. And if that's not happening, children are missing out on important development milestones."
And, perhaps not surprisingly, when Radesky looked at the patterns in what she and the other researchers observed, she found that kids with parents who were most absorbed in their devices were more likely to act out, in an effort to get their parents' attention. She recalls one group of three boys and their father: The father was on his cellphone, and the boys were singing a song repetitively and acting silly. When the boys got too loud, the father looked up from his phone and shouted at them to stop. But that only made the boys sing louder and act sillier.
Psychologist Catherine Steiner-Adair wrote a book about parenting, called The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age. She sees lots of parents, teens and younger kids in her clinical practice in Massachusetts. The father's reaction to his three silly boys might be expected, she says, because "when you're texting or answering email, the part of your brain that is engaged is the 'to do' part, where there's also a sense of urgency to get the task accomplished, a sense of time pressure. So we're much more irritable when interrupted."
And when parents focus on their digital world first — ahead of their children — there can be deep emotional consequences for the child, Steiner-Adair says. "We are behaving in ways that certainly tell children they don't matter, they're not interesting to us, they're not as compelling as anybody, anything, any ping that may interrupt our time with them," she says.
In research for her book, Steiner-Adair interviewed 1,000 children between the ages of 4 and 18, asking them about their parents' use of mobile devices. The language that came up over and over and over again, she says, was "sad, mad, angry and lonely." One 4-year-old called his dad's smartphone a "stupid phone." Others recalled joyfully throwing their parent's phone into the toilet, putting it in the oven or hiding it. There was one girl who said, "I feel like I'm just boring. I'm boring my dad because he will take any text, any call, anytime — even on the ski lift!"
Steiner-Adair says we don't know exactly how much these mini moments of disconnect between a parent and child affect the child in the long term. But based on the stories she hears, she suggests that parents think twice before picking up a mobile device when they're with their kids.
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Today in Your Health, we'll hear how the scribe, an ancient profession, is being revived in doctors' offices. But first, let's hear about how it affects children when the adults around them are absorbed in mobile devices. There's new research showing why that can be bad.
Here's NPR's Patti Neighmond.
PATTI NEIGHMOND, BYLINE: Jenny Radesky is a pediatrician specializing in child development. When she worked at a clinic in a high tech savvy Seattle neighborhood, she started noticing how often parents ignored their kids in favor of a mobile device.
JENNY RADESKY: A mom kind of had a phone set up in the stroller, kind of in between her and her baby. And the baby was making like faces and smiles at the mom and she wasn't picking up any of it. She was just watching a YouTube video.
NEIGHMOND: Radesky was so alarmed by what she saw, she decided she wanted to study the behavior further. After relocating to the Boston Medical Center, she and two other researchers spent one summer observing 55 different groups of parents and young children eating at fast food restaurants.
RADESKY: There was a good proportion of caregivers who brought out a device right away, looked at it or, you know, typed or scrolled on it for most of the meal, you know, only putting it down intermittently.
NEIGHMOND: In fact, 40 of the 55 parents used a mobile device during the meal. And many were more absorbed in the device than in the kids - a big mistake, says Radesky.
RADESKY: These face-to-face interactions are primary way that children learn. They learn language, they learn about their own emotions and about how to regulate those emotions. They learn by watching us: how to have a conversation, how to read other people's facial expressions.
NEIGHMOND: And perhaps not surprisingly, when Radesky looked at patterns in what she and the other researchers observed, she found kids with parents who were most absorbed in their devices were more likely to act out trying to get their parents' attention.
RADESKY: You know, there was one with three boys sitting together. They just started to enjoy each other's silliness. They were singing a song repetitively, but the father kept saying, you know: Enough, stop it, stop it. And they just would stop for a little while and then sing it again and louder, and start to kind of mush their bodies into each other. One started climbing over the barrier behind the booth that they were sitting in.
NEIGHMOND: And the father just kept raising his voice, telling them to stop and then going back to his cell phone.
Catherine Steiner Adair is a psychologist in Massachusetts who's written a book about parenting in the digital age and sees lots of parents, teens and younger kids in her clinical practice.
CATHERINE STEINER ADAIR: When you're texting, when you're answering email, the part of your brain that's engaged is sort of the to-do list part of the brain, it often a sense of urgency, and when we are engaged, trying to accomplish something under a time pressure, we're much more irritable when we are interrupted.
NEIGHMOND: And when parents focus on their digital world over their children, Steiner Adair says there can be deep emotional consequences for the child.
ADAIR: We are behaving in ways that certainly tell children they don't matter, they're not interesting to us, they're not as compelling as anybody or anything or any ping that would suddenly interrupt our time with them.
NEIGHMOND: In research for her recent book, Steiner Adair interviewed 1,000 children between the ages of four and 18, asking them about their parents' mobile device use.
ADAIR: And the language that came up over and over was sad, mad, angry, lonely.
NEIGHMOND: One four-year-old called his dad's Smartphone a stupid phone. Others recalled joyfully throwing their parents' phone into the toilet, putting it in the oven, or hiding it.
ADAIR: And one girl said: I feel like I'm just boring sometimes. I'm just boring my dad because he just will take any call, any text, any time - even on the ski lift.
NEIGHMOND: Steiner Adair says we don't know exactly how much these mini moments of disconnect between a parent and a child affect the child in long-term. But based on the stories she hears, she suggests that parents think twice before they pick up their mobile device when they're with their kids.
Patti Neighmond, NPR News. Transcript provided by NPR, Copyright NPR.