this I believe

  If we’re fortunate, we live long enough to share our adulthoods with our parents.  Indeed, one of the joys of aging is having the opportunity to connect with parents when we’re all adults, when the challenging dynamics of childhood are in our rearview mirrors.  Yet with this privilege comes the keen awareness that some day we may have to become our parents’ caregivers, rather than the reverse which defined our lives for decades. The poet Robert Frost wrote, “The afternoon knows what the morning never suspected.” Fortunately, many of us regard this as a true honor, as we hear from Donna Perry.

Donna Perry is a registered nurse who hails from nearby Massachusetts.  Her mother passed away earlier this year.

This I Believe Rhode Island: Caution

May 24, 2016

Most of us find that our perspectives change as we age. What was once a relatively trivial concern in our lives may begin to take on great meaning, or we may begin to relax about issues that once caused us great consternation and angst. Tom Doyle reflects on this very shift in his own life, and on its implications.

Following graduation from Wesleyan University, Doyle worked as a journalist, including a stint as managing editor of the Block Island Times weekly newspaper. He is now a physician, and lives with his family in Providence.

Life’s trajectory is hard to forecast and, you may have noticed, often harder to control.  There’s that profound Yiddish proverb, “Der mentsh trakht un got lakht. Man plans and God laughs.”  Under the best of circumstances, we figure out a way to cope with the curve balls that life sometimes throws at us.  And some of us do so with remarkable aplomb and grit, which is what we hear from Neil Corkery.

Neil Corkery, a North Kingstown resident, has had a rich career as an educator, human service administrator, and Rhode Island state legislator.

Who among us hasn’t encountered moments of sheer panic and debilitating anxiety? Perhaps it was when you were about to be wheeled in for surgery, or maybe it was that first date, waiting to find out about your grade on a critically important final exam, or, for so many, those moments before a big performance.  Joyce Carol Oates wrote, “Any kind of creative activity is likely to be stressful. The more anxiety, the more you feel that you are headed in the right direction.”  And we hear similar sentiments from a wise 13-year-old, Emma LaSala.   

Emma LaSala is in the seventh grade at the Gordon School in East Providence.  She lives with her family in Barrington.

This I Believe Rhode Island: Your Mother

May 3, 2016

  Who hasn't had a close encounter or two with a remarkably exasperating, perhaps eccentric, relative -- that legendary family fixture who has an astonishing ability to push the proverbial envelope and test our patience? And then, as so often happens, this is the relative who, over time, manages somehow to seep into and truly touch our soul. This is what happened to Janine Weisman. 



Janine Weisman is editor of Mercury, a weekly arts, culture and lifestyle publication in Newport. 

This I Believe Rhode island: Blank Pages

Apr 26, 2016

  Triumphs in our lives come in all kinds of shapes and sizes.  Some of our successes consist of quiet, nearly invisible moments, while others occur under bright lights and with lots of fanfare.  So, too, with the challenges and setbacks we often encounter that precede these triumphs.  Most lives, it seems, include an inevitable mix of sweet and sour, and dark and light.  But when we manage to triumph over our daunting challenges, those are the sweetest moments of all, as we hear from 13-year-old Lois Griffin.

This I Believe Rhode Island: Seasons

Apr 12, 2016

No doubt you have noticed how our lives ebb and flow, much like the seasons. Both literally and figuratively we get to experience the wonder of stunningly beautiful spring days and the bitter assault delivered by the occasional winter blizzard. Such is life.  

Life is filled with a complex mix of big and small moments.  Alongside the banner events of births, deaths, weddings, and graduations are quieter, albeit perhaps equally significant moments in our lives, those moments that arise out of brief, unanticipated, often random kindnesses.  As the ancient Greek storyteller Aesop once wrote, “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” And this we hear in the thoughts of Kevin Blanchard.

Kevin Blanchard grew up in the hills of central Massachusetts and teaches English at Barrington High School.  Each summer, he and his family spend their vacation time in northern New England.

This I Believe Rhode Island: Revision

Mar 29, 2016

In Plato's Apology, Socrates asserts that the unexamined life is not worth living.  While that may be a bit of an overstatement, many of us have learned during the course of our lives that self-examination that has real depth is a virtue that pays impressive dividends.  We understand ourselves better and, one would hope, enhance the meaning and purpose of our lives.  As we hear from Kenneth Schneyer, self-reflection, and the careful revision that results, also has the capacity to refine the profoundly important words we speak and write.


Kenneth Schneyer writes science fiction and fantasy, and teaches Humanities and Legal Studies at Johnson & Wales University.  

This I Believe Rhode Island: Gravestones

Mar 22, 2016

Perhaps most of us have spent some time anticipating our own deaths, our own mortality.  Maybe these are but fleeting moments, or maybe not.  Have you ever pictured the gravestone meant for you, and what it might mean to those who visit your gravesite?  For many of us this may be a macabre subject, one that’s hard to embrace.  But as we hear from Nicholas Benson, gravestones can host profound messages that convey so much about the stories of our lives – who we were, what we aimed to be, the very essence of our being.


Nicholas Benson owns the John Stevens Shop in Newport, RI, a small stone carving business founded in 1705, that specializes in the design and carving of one-of-a-kind inscriptions in stone.

This I Believe Rhode Island: Second Chances

Mar 15, 2016

All of us have had one of those really bad days during the course of our lives -- the kind of day that turns into a genuine nightmare, the kind of day that haunts us until our last breath, the kind of day we'd like to erase from our lives if only it were possible.  If we're fortunate, we figure out a way to move on, and if we're really fortunate, we manage to turn tragedy into a rich collection of compelling lessons that last a lifetime.  And that's what happened with Miguel Rosario.

Miguel Rosario spent his earliest years growing up in the Caribbean and Providence. His passion for photography started in 2009, when he began documenting life in his ancestral Dominican town of Moncion.

  Who doesn't love a good story?  We begin hearing stories when we're tiny children and then develop our own. Sometimes joyful. Sometimes painful.  For most of us, there's a rich and compelling mix. As the poet and writer Maya Angelou once said, “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”  And Nancy Jasper feels much the same.

Nancy Jasper is a clinical social worker who has lived in Rhode Island since 1970.

This I Believe Rhode Island: Parents' Journey

Mar 1, 2016

  Last week we heard from an eighth-grade student, Will Malloy, who shared his deeply personal thoughts about his recent decision to transition from female to male.  Will told us about the challenges he faced when he decided to go public, and about the love and support he has received along the way.  This week we hear from Will’s parents – Liz and Steven Malloy – about their own journey.

Liz and Steven Malloy, parents of Will Malloy, live in Warwick.

This I Believe Rhode Island: Acceptance

Feb 23, 2016

  Under the best of circumstances, adolescence can be a challenging time.  Navigating shifting friendships.  Sorting out relationships with parents.  Fantasizing about what the future may hold.  For some, adolescence is also a time to sort out one’s identity in much more fundamental ways that seem so essential, so compelling.  As Ralph Ellison wrote in his novel Invisible Man, “When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.”  And we hear echoes of these sentiments from thirteen-year-old Will Malloy.

Will Malloy is an eighth-grade student at the Moses Brown School in Providence.  He lives with his family in Warwick.

This I Believe Rhode Island: Identity

Feb 16, 2016

  The famed writer and poet Gertrude Stein once said, ''Growing has no connection with audience. Audience has no connection with identity." Stein's claim, it seems, is that our true identity is embedded deep within each of us and develops over the years in its own inexorable way. It's a complex, even debatable phenomenon, as Alex Myers knows very, very well.


Before moving to Washington, DC, Alex Myers taught English at St. George's School in Middletown. His first novel, Revolutionary, tells the story of Deborah Samson, who disguised herself as a man and fought in the Revolutionary War.